I used to think that because I had not protected myself from control or criticism from others, I, therefore, didn’t deserve to have success in my life.
But now I know that with each success that I have, I am proving that those who have tried to stop me from accomplishing my goals have no more control over me. I am the overall determiner of my success.
Continue to prove that no matter what/who attempts to prevent you from pursuing your dreams, you are the overall determiner of your own success.
Create your own goals!
You belong here and deserve success just as much as anyone else.
Setting Yourself up for Success
Believe in yourself
Having confidence in your ability and qualification will enable you to sell yourself to employers and investors. Positive affirmations can be a helpful way to boost your confidence. Think of a few of the qualities that you like and remind yourself of them whenever you feel your confidence slipping away. Pay attention to your own behavior and if there is something you don’t like about yourself, find ways to change. Even the late American boxing champion Muhammad Ali posted this sentiment on Twitter, "I am the greatest. I said that even before I knew I was," referring to the moment before his 1964 world title fight against Sonny Liston.
"You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing." - Ram Dass, in his book Be Love Now
"The chance to love and be loved exists no matter where you are." - Oprah, in O, the Oprah Magazine
"Am I good enough? Yes I am." - Michelle Obama, in her New York Times bestselling memoir Becoming
"The perfect moment is this one." - Kabat-Zinn, in her book Mindfulness
"Your perspective is unique. It’s important and it counts.” - Glenn Close, in her 2019 William & Mary commencement speech
“Simplicity, clarity, singleness: These are the attributes that give our lives power and vividness and joy as they are also the marks of great art.”
Stop Procrastinating
It is always way more enjoyable to do the things you WANT to do instead of the things you NEED to do. It can be so easy to pretend that some responsibilities just don’t exist until the last minute. You end up racing to finish them and may be stuck with a way worse product than what you could have created if you had just started working on it earlier. And what were you doing instead? Wasting that precious time by doing only pleasurable activities while still worrying about that talk you will eventually need to do… Stop making life harder and more stressful for yourself!
Focus on the Positive
Many people judge others based on only the negatives they see about them. But the positives are there as well–they are sometimes just harder to see. If you want others to notice the positive qualities you have to offer, then why not give them the same attention? The same mindset goes for events that happen in your life. If you only focus on negative outcomes, how will you ever enjoy life for what it is? Molding this new positive mindset could change how you see the world and the people around you. Many successful people have accomplished this, and you can too.
"I have never ever focused on the negative of things. I always look at the positive," said Supreme Court Justice Sotomayor in an interview with NPR. Procrastination is always the enemy. This means that being prepared for your work ahead of time is crucial to avoid sore heads and late nights. "The 21 All-Time Greatest Blog Post Topics for Social Scientists" by Sandra Alicin will help you get busy on your work without any undue hesitation.
Prepare in Advance
Procrastination is always the enemy. This means that being prepared for your work ahead of time is crucial to avoid sore heads and late nights. "The 21 All-Time Greatest Blog Post Topics for Social Scientists" by Sandra Alicin will help you get busy on your work without any undue hesitation.
Practice Self-Compassion
Stop putting yourself down. Start giving yourself credit. Treat yourself the way you want to treat others. With kindness, love, and support. Don’t judge yourself so harshly for the things that you want to improve on or mistakes that you make.
Stop putting yourself down. Start giving yourself credit. Treat yourself the way you want to treat others. With kindness, love, and support. Don’t judge yourself so harshly for the things that you want to improve on or mistakes that you make.
Stop using words like ‘I can’t,’ ‘I don’t,’ or ‘I shouldn’t.’ Stop beating yourself up with regrets, judgments, and self-blame.
Ask For Help
Accept the ‘I’ in ‘I’m not good enough.’ Learn to ask for and accept help from others. When you say that you do not have something, you are putting yourself down and making a judgment on yourself that you do not deserve it. You probably do not need the thing or “extra help” any more than I … need a new car every time I see one on the road…
Have patience with others. They cannot read your mind and they may be in a rush for anything – even if they think they are being helpful (they might be being stressed).
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
When we are young, and even when we are full adults, we may feel stuck comparing ourselves to people in our surroundings, such as our siblings, friends, and other acquaintances. They may be our best friends, but that doesn't mean they have everything we want. How can we be better than them if they are doing so well? As the saying goes, comparison is the thief of joy. It can blindside us into believing that everyone else's life is perfect. Comparison makes us feel extremely self-conscious and even unhappy about ourselves when we know deep down that nobody should live up to a standard like the one we hold ourselves to.
Live limitlessly
Live like there is no tomorrow. Live a life of no regrets, while you can. Practice saying yes and trying new things. Whatever the day brings, live it, love it, enjoy it to the fullest because you never know what tomorrow will bring. Keep your mind open to learning new ways and exploring parts of the world that you may have brushed over in the past. After all, you just never know how short life may be so make the best of every moment.
Life is messy. Sometimes it’s good messy, sometimes it’s bad messy. The trick is to know when to straighten things out and also when to just enjoy the mess you are in.
If you face your flaws, you’ll notice the change.
